Frenemies” or “Friends+Enemies”! Does this word aptly describe your
rapport with your husband’s friends? Candidly, the reason is that you
love the same person (of course, in different ways though!).
Whether they admit or not, for most women there is always an unspoken clash between them and their husband’s friends, which is at times difficult to bridge. But it is not an arduous task to end this so called “cold war”. It just takes a tinge of understanding and compassion to make things easier. You can make your husband’s friends adore you and respect you from their heart if you try. Well, allow us to show you ways to do it.
Whether they admit or not, for most women there is always an unspoken clash between them and their husband’s friends, which is at times difficult to bridge. But it is not an arduous task to end this so called “cold war”. It just takes a tinge of understanding and compassion to make things easier. You can make your husband’s friends adore you and respect you from their heart if you try. Well, allow us to show you ways to do it.
#1. Learn to accept them
Nobody likes to be judged. So, it would be kind of you if you stop judging your spouse’s friends. You might argue that you never tell them anything on their faces, but the truth is that your rolling eye speaks a lot more. It does not mean that you have to like all your husband’s buddies, but you can at the most accept them as they are and be grateful that they have supported your husband always. After all, there must be something about them that makes them a part of your spouse’s life.
Nobody likes to be judged. So, it would be kind of you if you stop judging your spouse’s friends. You might argue that you never tell them anything on their faces, but the truth is that your rolling eye speaks a lot more. It does not mean that you have to like all your husband’s buddies, but you can at the most accept them as they are and be grateful that they have supported your husband always. After all, there must be something about them that makes them a part of your spouse’s life.
#2. Let your husband enjoy with them
Don’t get threatened by the amount of time your sweetheart spends with his pals. Just like you, he too needs some “me” time. If you are buzzing him incessantly with calls and messages when he is with his friends, you are not only annoying his friends but also testing your partner’s patience. All that his friends will speculate is that you are either lack trust in your husband or you don’t like him hanging out with them. So, take this hint and let him have a gala time with his buddies once in a while. We are sure; in return your husband will be only grateful to you.
Don’t get threatened by the amount of time your sweetheart spends with his pals. Just like you, he too needs some “me” time. If you are buzzing him incessantly with calls and messages when he is with his friends, you are not only annoying his friends but also testing your partner’s patience. All that his friends will speculate is that you are either lack trust in your husband or you don’t like him hanging out with them. So, take this hint and let him have a gala time with his buddies once in a while. We are sure; in return your husband will be only grateful to you.
#3. Never belittle your husband in their presence
When your husband has a gang of loyal friends, they will never tolerate you snubbing him in public. They might always defend him, even if it means attacking you. So, how much ever unhappy you are with your husband’s frivolous spending or his infuriating habits, you don’t need to spill the beans in front of everyone. Let those things be best discussed behind the doors. His friends will appreciate you when you admire your husband for what he is and will always be.
When your husband has a gang of loyal friends, they will never tolerate you snubbing him in public. They might always defend him, even if it means attacking you. So, how much ever unhappy you are with your husband’s frivolous spending or his infuriating habits, you don’t need to spill the beans in front of everyone. Let those things be best discussed behind the doors. His friends will appreciate you when you admire your husband for what he is and will always be.
#4. When with them, be yourself
When you decide to hang out with your husband and his friends, it is noteworthy to be as natural as you are. They like you just the way you are. You need not do anything to impress them by going over the top. So, do not try to grab those eyeballs or ask for special attention by throwing unnecessary tantrums.
When you decide to hang out with your husband and his friends, it is noteworthy to be as natural as you are. They like you just the way you are. You need not do anything to impress them by going over the top. So, do not try to grab those eyeballs or ask for special attention by throwing unnecessary tantrums.
#5. Some try-worthy tips
It is, needless to say that you need to bring in a little change in your attitude- from “you versus them” to “you and them”- to accept each other for good. Along with that, follow these simple tips:
It is, needless to say that you need to bring in a little change in your attitude- from “you versus them” to “you and them”- to accept each other for good. Along with that, follow these simple tips:
Always be polite to them when they call, instead of being cold and merely passing the phone to your husband, ask them about their well-being and indulge in some small talk.
Don’t read your husband’s friends messages on the phone. Let men’s talk be private and confidential.
Make sure you do not always call off their well-planned hangouts for silly reasons.
And, do accompany them when they genuinely want you to come with them.
What’s more? If your husband’s friends are married, then insist on making “Couples’ Night” or “Double Date” plans with them. This way you get to spend time with your husband, he gets to spend time with his friends, and you get to be a part of the group… so it is a “win-win situation” for all, right?
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